Monday, August 1, 2011

Dating Advice for Shy Guys

Don't Be Afraid To Ask For Help
Women in distress have been doing this for years; there's no reason guys can't take advantage of women's desire to swoop in and save the day, too. Just be sure to pick a topic on which women will feel they can offer some assistance. You'll rarely go wrong seeking style advice ("Excuse me, but I need a woman's opinion on this jacket. Is it a keeper, or should it never leave my closet again?") or relationships ("Hey, my pal and I need a woman's perspective on how long a guy should wait before calling after a date. What's your opinion?"). Asking for advice will diffuse the pressure of it being a pickup.

Sunday, July 17, 2011

Easy and Simple Ways to Be Romantic

Here are some very easy and simple ways to show off your romantic side.

Offer a back massage with some good smelling lotion.

Make a CD with a few songs that are meaningful to your relationship.

Surprise her at work and take her out to lunch, maybe take-out food in the park or maybe to a little diner, for a midday romantic interlude.

Send a text message or email that says "I love you!"

Leave a love note in her car telling her to have a great day.

Write a love poem for her.

Buy some body paint and write your love message on your body.

Advice on How to Be Romantic

What does it mean to be a romantic man? What is it exactly that makes a woman see a man as romantic?

It may be the little things like a quick brush across her back or a glance. Flowers are romantic too (even if they have become a cliché). But the idea is to be creative, use your imagination to change things up and create romantic moments.

The main key in creating a romantic moment is to put the woman's likes in front of your own. It is so easy, you have to build an activity around something that SHE likes to do (like shopping, walks on the beach, fine dining, etc). The idea is doing something that she likes with her and enjoying it. Being there in the moment with her, and appreciating it. Not staring off into space or wishing for it to be over, this is NOT romantic.

With only a little thinking and planning, romantic moments can happen every day and at the most unexpected moments. Being romantic is a win/win situation. She will be happy and so will you!

Wednesday, July 13, 2011

Why Has She Not Called Back?

Are you sitting at home wondering why she hasn't called you back? after all the date had seemed to go really well, didn't it?

Here is what you need to know, if you have not connected with her emotionally than chances are really high that you won't get a call back. Women feel connected by sharing stories, words and emotions. Try talking to her like a friend to ease the situation.

It's been three days since the perfect date where you went out with this awesome woman, you laughed and had a great time, you even called her the next day and left a message telling her how much of a great time you had with her.

So what has happened, it's been three days and this lady has not yet called you back. You feel contused, you constantly check your phone, you go over the date in your head a million times, talk to your friends about it ad-nauseum til they start avoiding you. You might even start believing it was your over eager message the next day that turned her off.

You didn't connect.

Chances are she didn't feel the same way about you or the date you experienced. The reason for this usually lies in the fact that you failed to connect emotionally with her.

Let me explain it this way: How many of you have gone out, met a woman, scored her home number, and then said to yourself, "Why won't she call back?" Probably a lot. That happens when you have failed to connect with a woman and distinguish yourself from the other guys who are also hitting on her. The next day, she probably has no idea who you are.

It’s the same idea on a date. When she leaves that date, she needs to know something about you that makes her feel “connected” to you. That you shared something with her like a moment, a laugh, an experience.

What you Can Do:

What you can do is easy, if you want women to call you back you need to create and emotional connection. While men connect through sharing activities together women connect through sharing stories, words and emotions.

The best way is to start talking to women as you would speak to any friend. Pay attention to the details of what she tells you. Remember the names of her friends, where she went to school, where she grew up. Remember the conversations. Personalize your message by saying something like, “I had a great time with you last night. I especially enjoyed our conversation about your travels in France. How about I take you to that little sushi restaurant you mentioned next Thursday.” This is how you can let the her know that you are not one of the regular men that she has met, but a special guy that connected with her.