Wednesday, July 13, 2011

Why Has She Not Called Back?

Are you sitting at home wondering why she hasn't called you back? after all the date had seemed to go really well, didn't it?

Here is what you need to know, if you have not connected with her emotionally than chances are really high that you won't get a call back. Women feel connected by sharing stories, words and emotions. Try talking to her like a friend to ease the situation.

It's been three days since the perfect date where you went out with this awesome woman, you laughed and had a great time, you even called her the next day and left a message telling her how much of a great time you had with her.

So what has happened, it's been three days and this lady has not yet called you back. You feel contused, you constantly check your phone, you go over the date in your head a million times, talk to your friends about it ad-nauseum til they start avoiding you. You might even start believing it was your over eager message the next day that turned her off.

You didn't connect.

Chances are she didn't feel the same way about you or the date you experienced. The reason for this usually lies in the fact that you failed to connect emotionally with her.

Let me explain it this way: How many of you have gone out, met a woman, scored her home number, and then said to yourself, "Why won't she call back?" Probably a lot. That happens when you have failed to connect with a woman and distinguish yourself from the other guys who are also hitting on her. The next day, she probably has no idea who you are.

It’s the same idea on a date. When she leaves that date, she needs to know something about you that makes her feel “connected” to you. That you shared something with her like a moment, a laugh, an experience.

What you Can Do:

What you can do is easy, if you want women to call you back you need to create and emotional connection. While men connect through sharing activities together women connect through sharing stories, words and emotions.

The best way is to start talking to women as you would speak to any friend. Pay attention to the details of what she tells you. Remember the names of her friends, where she went to school, where she grew up. Remember the conversations. Personalize your message by saying something like, “I had a great time with you last night. I especially enjoyed our conversation about your travels in France. How about I take you to that little sushi restaurant you mentioned next Thursday.” This is how you can let the her know that you are not one of the regular men that she has met, but a special guy that connected with her.

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